Virgin Shaming & Sex Shaming: Let’s Just Stop It!

Virgin Shaming & Sex Shaming: Let’s Just Stop It!

 Nowadays, people get shamed for many things, from the way they dress to their body and even whether or not they are sexually active. But why does it matter if a person is having sex or not? So long as it isn’t illegal as in a minor involved with an adult and so long as it is consensual, why is it our business if someone is having sex or choosing to remain abstinent? Why is someone else’s personal love life any of our business?

Truth is, a person’s virginity or intimate life is not our business and nobody should be shamed for choosing to have intimate relations with someone just as they shouldn’t be shamed for being a virgin either. Whether a person chooses to have sex or maintain their virginity is their own personal and private decision and nobody else’s. Nobody has the right to say anything about his or her decision except for them and the decision should not concern anyone except for them and the person he or she has chosen to be intimate with, provided they have made the decision to engage in sexual activity.

Also, just because a woman looks or dresses a certain way, it does not determine whether she is sexually active or a virgin so please don’t judge and presume to know about a woman’s sex life which honestly is none of your business to begin with, whether she has chosen to tell you anything about it or not. For starters, just because a woman is wearing shorts or a skirt or a dress, it does not mean she is sexually promiscuous. If a woman chooses to dress more modestly, it does not mean she is a virgin. A person’s looks and style of dress does not determine if they are having sex or not.

Additionally, for many people, they choose not to talk about whether or not they are a virgin or sexually active, not just because it is a part of their personal, private life but because they may not feel comfortable discussing it for multiple reasons so please do not try to pry information out of someone just so you can judge, bully, criticize, mock, tease or shame them for their personal choices regarding such matters. Regardless if a man or a woman has chosen to have sex or not, they made that decision for very specific reasons and I’m sure they took plenty of time to thoroughly think out and make that decision to ensure it was indeed the right decision for them. If a woman or man has chosen to stay a virgin for the time being, for whatever reason, whether that’s because they feels they aren’t ready yet, if they want to wait until marriage, out of respect for their religious or cultural beliefs, if they want to wait for someone they deeply care about and trust enough to be intimate with in that way or for another different reason, that does not give anyone the right to mock, tease, shame, judge or bully them for it. 

 
The same can be said for a man or a woman who has chosen to be sexually intimate. Nobody has the right to bully, judge, shame, ridicule or criticize them for their decision either as he or she has their own personal reasons for making the decision that they have made. In conclusion, there is nothing wrong with not being a virgin and there is nothing wrong with being one either so please stop putting others down for any of it.