Ways To Avoid Being A Creeper When Talking To Women In The Wrestling Industry

Ways To Avoid Being A Creeper When Talking To Women In The Wrestling Industry

Women in the professional wrestling industry try very hard to communicate with their fans through social media. We do this to show appreciation for our fans but sometimes we are hesitant to get on social media when we feel disrespected or feel that our privacy is violated. This tends to happen when some fans do or say things that make us feel underappreciated for what we do in the ring or make us feel offended. Not all fans are like this, of course but some fans do tend to take it too far. So here is a little guide to help fans know what not to do when talking to any woman in the professional wrestling business, whether she is a wrestler, manager, ring announcer, referee etc.

Do not send or ask for dirty pictures. We honestly do not want to open up our message inbox to see any nudes of you. If we wanted to see nudes, we would ask for them. If we didn’t ask for them, it means we don’t want them.  

Additionally, we would like to be respected for our work in the ring. We don’t want to be constantly harassed when it comes to you repeatedly asking to see pictures of us nude, in lingerie, bikinis, bra and panties etc. If we said no, it means no and you really shouldn’t be asking in the first place. 

Do not ask us to wrestle you in a private match. While some ladies in the industry do partake in session wrestling, other women may not be comfortable with it. It’s ok to simply and respectfully ask if we do session wrestling matches but if the lady you are asking says no, leave it at that. Don’t keep pestering her about why she does not do it or why she should have a private match with you, especially if she has explained to you that she is uncomfortable with it. If you keep bothering her about it, she will feel disrespected and chances are, once she feels that way, she won’t want to continue a conversation with you anymore.  

Do not ask inappropriate questions. If you wouldn’t want some random person asking your daughter, mother, niece, cousin, sister, aunt etc. what her bra size is, what type of underwear she wears, if she is a virgin or any other sexual questions, then don’t ask us either. Being asked questions like these is extremely personal and disrespectful. It is also one of the quickest ways to get blocked and reported for sexual harassment.

Do not ask for other personal information either such as home addresses, workplace addresses, phone numbers, email addresses, real names etc. To any women in the business, if you don’t want this information getting out, hide it on your social media profiles. Facebook will sometimes require you to list a phone number on your profile as proof of validation. Because of this, I’ve had the unpleasant experience of having creepers text and try to call me on my phone just to harass me after asking them to leave me alone so if you don’t want a phone call from some random person you don’t know while you are at work or while you’re trying to sleep at 4 a.m., change your settings to where your phone number cannot be seen on your profile by anybody. Yes, it’s terrible you have to be forced to do that but some fans do not understand or respect personal boundaries. 

On that note, if you do see a wrestler’s phone number on their page, please do not call it. That is their personal number and if they wanted to give it to you, they would have told it to you personally. In regards to emails, some wrestlers only have their email on their page so promoters can contact them directly regarding potential bookings and so media outlets can contact them about interviews, public appearances etc. so please respect that by not sending them any emails. They don’t need to be sorting through hundreds of emails just to find the ones from interviewers asking them to be on their podcasts and promoters contacting them about future shows to work. 

Additionally, the reason why we don’t give out our home addresses and work addresses is because we don’t like the idea of possibly being stalked as our home and our workplace are part of our private lives outside of the ring. Not to mention, our home is where our family members also reside. Therefore, the privacy of our family is very important to us. 

Also, it is never ok to trick a wrestler into giving you their contact information by impersonating or pretending to be a booker or promoter claiming interest in booking them for a show or by pretending to be a podcaster and claiming you want to interview them for a podcast. Doing something like this to obtain their phone number just so you can harass them through text messages and phone calls all day and night is extremely disrespectful, stalker-like and creepy. Wrestlers, as a precautionary measure, ask anyone contacting you regarding being a guest on their podcast to send you a link to one of their podcast interviews if they haven’t already done so in advance just so you can confirm they are legitimately who they are claiming to be. 

Don’t get mad if we don’t respond right away. We live busy lives and cannot be on social media constantly. We have families to take care of, careers outside of the ring, personal training time, shows to work and other important errands and personal matters that prevent us from being on social media. 

Please understand that we make as much time for our fans as we can but that doesn’t mean we can be on all day and it doesn’t mean we will respond to your message or comment instantly after you send it so please do not constantly message us every few minutes asking why we won’t reply to you as after a while, that does get annoying. It’s not that we’re ignoring you. It’s just that we are busy and not online at the moment. 

 

On that note, do not send excessive messages, comments and notifications every few seconds. There are some fans who feel the need to comment on everything we post and because of that, we will get so many notifications that it becomes very hard for us to keep up with responding back to everyone. We appreciate the support you show us for our wrestling careers but thousands of messages in the course of one day is a little extreme and unnecessary. 

Don’t get upset over a woman in the wrestling business being in a relationship. If you ask her if she is single and she tells you that she is in a relationship, engaged or married, please respect that. Please do not ask her personal details about who she is dating, engaged or married to. The person she may be involved with could be someone she is trying to protect the identity of if they are not in the professional wrestling industry like them. Additionally, regardless of who she is involved with, she may prefer to keep her relationship with them a private matter and not be comfortable sharing personal details about her romantic life.

On another note, don’t get upset if you flirt, ask her out on a date or try to make advances towards her and she tells you upfront that she is dating someone, engaged or married. To be more direct, she is not a slut, ring rat, tramp, bitch, whore or any other derogatory term just for being in a relationship. Also, don’t tell her to break up with or divorce whoever she is romantically involved with either just because you are attracted to her. She has every right to be happy in the relationship she is in without having to feel insulted for being in one.

If a woman in the wrestling business does choose to accept your friend request, please don’t keep deleting yourself from her friends list just to keep sending her requests to add you. First of all, that is annoying. Secondly, chances are after a while, she isn’t going to keep re-adding you, especially if people she knows personally are waiting for her to accept their request if she has reached the limit amount of friends on a social media account and finally gets a spot open to add someone. 

Also, please do not send her a video chat or voice message without permission. Please ask first if it is ok to voice message or video chat with her as she may only voice message or video chat with people she knows personally like family or close friends. If she tells you she does not do video chats or voice messages, please don't try to pressure her into making an exception for you and doing them as a lot of female wrestlers have the voice message and video chat features turned off for privacy reasons. If she says no, please respect her decision and refrain from sending her video chat or voice messages.

Finally, don’t try to control what she wears to the ring, her entrance music, her appearance, her ring name, moveset, merchandise ideas etc. Each woman puts a lot of thought, creativity, work and money into her gimmick, from her ring gear, hairstyle, hair color, merchandising, ring name, moveset etc. To tell her she should change her gimmick, merchandise, ring name or entrance music to what you think it should be is to insult all of the efforts she has put in as a performer and all of the hard work she has put in to make her gimmick what she wants it to be and what she is comfortable and confident with it being.