Finding The Best In Others

Finding The Best In Others

There are times in life when people hurt us either by their words or their actions. Sometimes the pain and suffering they cause is unintentional but sometimes it’s not. During these times, we don’t understand why someone would hurt us the way that they did. Sometimes we may get angry or hold resentment towards them for it but does that really solve anything? Of course not! All it does is make the situation keep negatively affecting us. So how do we change the situation from negative to positive?

First, we forgive them for their wrongdoing, whether it was intentional or unintentional. Choosing to forgive them frees us from the negative experience. After that, we choose to see the good in them. Sometimes that can be difficult especially if the person continues to be hurtful towards you but choosing to find and focus solely on even one positive quality about them can make a huge difference.

For example, let’s say someone chooses to say something hurtful about you, whether it’s intentional or not. Instead of focusing on their faults, focus on their strengths. Meaning, instead of choosing to say something hurtful back to them, which only worsens the situation, choose to say something positive and nice to them such as giving them a compliment or simply letting them know you are praying for them or that you are there to encourage and support them if they need someone to talk to or someone to help them. For all you know, they could only be acting out in the negative way that they are because they are going through something tough in their own lives, which may be causing them to lash out at everyone.

Additionally, the stresses of what they may be personally going through could have been building up as they let it fester inside them and instead of choosing to take it out in a positive and healthy way, they may have simply just ended up venting their frustrations out on you. Do not resent them for that. Simply practice respect, compassion, kindness and empathy by praying for them, forgiving them and continuing to see them in a way that is good and positive by searching for some quality about them that you find beautiful, whether that is a physical quality, something about their personality or something kind they once did for either you or someone else.